Hi, my name is Micah. I am a thirty-two year old woman who has always wanted to be a mum, however when I was aged 15 years old (ish), I discovered that this was not possible the ‘natural’ way because I have a condition called, MRKH. To be honest, this was very hard to hear at such a young age. At the time of my diagnosis, my mum and dad were with me and we all cried - this is so hard to even write now. However, the older I get, the more I understand and the more I experience love for myself.
This to me has been one of the most empowering aspects of my life journey so far.
This journey has not at all been easy as a young woman - I often pushed my MRKH aside and focused on other parts of my life. From the age of say, fifteen until my late twenties, I did not see MRKH as a part of me - I just thought, ‘I can deal with it later in my life and see how it will go then!’.
In my life, past boyfriends and ‘flings’ who I have disclosed my MRKH to, to be honest, seemed to lack (understandably) huge understanding and this was/is hard to stomach. In most instances, I didn’t understand the details myself -only just little bits here and there, which I had been told at a younger age. Over the last three years, since coming out of a long term relationship, I found self-discovery and since, I have dedicated my time to learning about me – me, the woman. It is truly amazing what you can find out about yourself and how you can grow.
During this time, I also wanted to learn more about my MRKH and I thought the best thing to do was to find a group of people who will understand and support me. So, I found the Sisters for Love MRKH Foundation and Ally. Our talks were amazing – I think the first time we ever spoke over the telephone was for nearly two hours and it was nothing short of great! Last year, I attended the Sisters for Love conference in Sydney -this was the best thing! So fun to connect with everyone and talk about everything-I loved every moment.
In my journey - in life with MRKH, I have realised that I am no less of a woman. I am a woman who has had to fight to love me. I see children in the world in need of a home possibly my future – perhaps my journey to motherhood is through surrogacy. But there is now hope. I have found love again with an amazing man that loves all of me. If I could tell my fifteen year old self anything, it would be the road may be sad at times – a huge challenge even. You may feel like there is no-one who understands you, but you will be surprised. There are women out there who understand, who have travelled on their journey too and who know, you are never, ever alone.
Ambassador- United Kingdom
Ambassador- New Zealand
Ko Samantha toku ingoa, Ko MRKH toku tātaritanga.
My name is Samantha, my diagnosis is MRKH. To write this, is a relief beyond measure, because it’s no longer lurking in the background, ready to strike just when I thought I had it all together and could take on the world. (Which, by the way, I still can.)
In reality, it has taken me nearly ten years to get to this point, and connect with the amazing network that is the Sisters for Love. Ten years spent blissfully in unknown denial, and a vague acceptance I was happy with myself and my diagnosis. Born and bred in the South of New Zealand, at 17 I accepted the impossible, thickened my skin (a little MRKH joke in there for you), and carried on doing what I was doing.
I began my official adult life with a job in telecommunications design, and after leaving for a three year stint in jaw-dropping Fiordland National Park, I went back. Fast forward in this brief but stunningly interesting story of myself, and I am still there, immensely enjoying what I do, now also a student/amazing expert studying my Diploma in Telecommunications Engineering. Almost a normal life. Almost. Except it’s not.
We have all been given a challenge in our lives. It takes guts, and courage. It’s full of sorrow and joy. I have no doubt you are all compassionate, beautiful women with so much to give this world. MRKH is our journey to share.
Fakataha ko tatou kaha.
As one we are strong.
My name is Jodie Coughlan and I am a 44 year old wife, daughter, sister, aunty, cousin, niece, granddaughter, friend, social worker, teacher and Sisters for Love Ambassador and I have MRKH. No wonder I sometimes feel exhausted! I believe that no one role or label should ever define me and that I am indeed many things grand and wonderful and that, although life has thrown me some curveballs, I am and will always remain the driver of my destiny.
When I was diagnosed in 1987, there was no name and I felt completely alone and believed that no one in the world was like me. This did not make me feel special or unique but instead it made me feel odd and abnormal and I endeavoured to hide my condition because of feelings of shame. Now I am older, wiser and more informed and I look back on my younger self with empathy, compassion and a slight urge to slap myself!
I got married when I was 24 and after 20 years miraculously we are still together! In our journey as a couple we investigated various options for parenthood and were foster carers for a while. What we discovered along the way was just how much fun life can be as a couple without children and we live and appreciate every day of this. We often breathe out slowly with gratitude after leaving the homes of friends or family with kids and on entering the quiet sanctuary of our home we are genuinely thankful for it.
When I first met other women with MRKH I was astounded by the grief they felt about not being able to be a mum and this, in some ways, isolated me even more for a while.
I failed to feel this level of grief and wondered again what was wrong with me. Now I realize nothing, none of us are all the same, what we want from life is wide and vast.With age comes wisdom and I love nothing more than to impart mine. I want to share my story to inspire others with MRKH to learn to love and accept themselves and to seek whatever support they need to do this. I want women with MRKH to know that they are not alone, that the condition need not define who they are and that life can be good, if not great, regardless.
The Sisters for Love Ambassador Program
We can’t do this alone. We don’t want to do this alone.
By expanding and strengthening the global footprint of advocacy and support within a truly unique and diverse sisterhood of women, the future of MRKH connection and sustainability will continue.
By uniting as one voice, we can aim to make the world that little bit smaller for those looking to be heard. Be a Sisters for Love Ambassador and carve the future for those who will embark on this journey alone and where we will be waiting to meet them.
My name is Jacqui. I am twenty-one years old and was diagnosed with MRKH 3 years ago. I've just managed to shock myself with the fact that it has only been 3 years since diagnosis, as it has become such a huge part of of the person I am today!
To begin with I let it get to me. I isolated myself, I made myself feel worthless and I told myself what I couldn't have but that's the thing... I put those thoughts into my head. It took hitting rock bottom to realise I was the only person who could stop these feelings. So I found my nurse and we started treatment and I told everyone... And I mean everyone! Telling my story to the media in England was my attempt at ridding any possible taboo and despite them giving the article the ugliest title imagineable, 'The Girl Born Without A Vagina' , actually helped (me). I received messages from girls all over the world!
My travel enthusiasm is what first introduced me to the 'Sisters For Love MRKH Foundation, whilst backpacking around Australia. I even attended my first ever support group meeting and had the opportunity to meet a group of courageous, beautiful and inspiring women. I walked into that meeting feeling good about myself but left feeling inspired. Being given the opportunity to speak at the following meeting as part of a a panel discussion was a feeling I couldn't describe and has left me wanting to do even more for this unique community.
I believe that with humour and support you can get through anything and so here I am, ready to make inappropriate jokes to get you through this.
This is me- I am a sister to three amazing girls and two great men. I am a banker by trade, which is slightly ironic because math was always my worst subject in school. I love to bake, and decorate cakes in fun ways, and I especially enjoy going on spontaneous adventures!
I was diagnosed with MRKH in 2003, when I was 16 years old. Unfortunately, in my case my doctors had no knowledge or experience in dealing with MRKH and did not provide me with any information or tools on what it was or what to do about it. I lived with my MRKH and the feelings of inadequacy it caused me to feel in near silence for ten years, before I finally broke free. At age 25 I finally realized that I am beautiful just as I am, and that not having most of my reproductive organs does not make me any less of a person. And I discovered that I am not alone.
With this new outlook on MRKH and life, I ventured on an adventure of self-discovery while doing my best to raise awareness for the condition and reach out to women like me. I was featured on two separate episodes of the daytime television show “The Doctors” in 2014, and write a weekly blog where I share the most intimate feelings and experiences that life with MRKH has provided me. Through social media, I have been able to connect with MRKH women all over the world. I have a passion to reach out to other women with MRKH with the hope that no woman will have to go through the MRKH journey alone, as I did.
I am super happy to be a part of the Australian Sisters for Love Ambassador Program – to connect our countries and bridge the gap between this unique sisterhood of women is truly changing lives, including my own.
Ambassador- United States
Ambassador- Western Australia
My name is Kelsey. I am 27 years old. I have MRKH Syndrome. I am an ambassador for the Sisters for Love MRKH Foundation and I tell my story to help bring support to others and awareness of MRKH.
When I was diagnosed with MRKH at the age of 16, I had no idea that I was about to embark on one of the most emotionally challenging journeys of my life. I initially didn’t understand what this condition was or the full impact it would have on my life. At such a young age, my first concern was ‘how am I going to cover up that I don’t get periods’. The idea of not being able to have a family was one of the last concerns I had at the time. I immediately buried my head in the sand, not wanting to talk to my family or friends, preferring to deal with my emotions alone and in silence. However, with the support of my wonderful family, the doctors, the nurses and my MRKH mentor I was able to overcome most of my fears and face my diagnosis head on.
The thing about MRKH Syndrome is that it can be cruel. It’s a condition that makes you feel ashamed and embarrassed. At points I found myself struggling to identify who I was. It is such a taboo subject that you find yourself suppressing your emotions, not wanting to talk about it for fear of having to explain what MRKH is and deal with the potentially awkward reactions. It also doesn’t ever go away, popping its head up at different stages of life and usually when you least expect it.
However through these struggles, I am proud to say that I have come so far and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I finished a uni degree, landed my dream job and moved to Perth from Newcastle, NSW. I now feel strong, prouder and more determined than ever. I also have the most incredible husband who supports me 110% and accepts every one of my flaws including my MRKH. Together we are optimistic about what the future holds for us.
I view writing my story down on paper as my form of ‘coming out’ with MRKH. I won’t deny that getting to this point hasn’t been easy – it has been one mighty struggle and I have almost got cold feet. However, I hope that by verbalising my journey I will help other women to no longer feel alone in their journey, to know that there are people out there who understand and are here to help. I now realise that I am the person I am today because of MRKH and there honestly isn’t a thing I would change. I hope that all women with MRKH can one day share this view of themselves too.
Becoming an Ambassador for the Sisters For Love Foundation is incredibly exciting and the foundation presents many new opportunities for women with MRKH Syndrome. I know that together we can achieve great things here in Australia by creating awareness of not only the condition itself but the impact it has on the lives of women and how we can help them through this. I cannot wait to see what the future holds and be a part of it.
I look forward to hearing your story soon!
Ambassador - Queensland