Dear My Sister,
It has taken me a while to get here, but I am now ready to share with you what has
been my story. I hope your journey is not too painful, but with my words you may
find some comfort. Here goes……..
To my 17 year old self. My wish for you would be to allow you even just a mere glance at the future, and an understanding that you will be okay. And the confidence to believe that I am right.
“You don’t need your own kids, you can always adopt!”, “You are so lucky you never get your period”, “Just think of all that money you’ll save not having children”, “Don’t worry, sex is overrated anyway!”... Those are just a handful of comments that I give you permission to screw up and backhand into the trash. Don’t take what people say to heart, for you cannot even begin to compare your journey with theirs. You are worlds apart, and that is okay.
“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions”
Instead, focus on the things that you want to achieve. Never settle. If you have a dream, go for it, because you are the only person that is in your way. Allow yourself bad days. They truly make you appreciate the good. And while you’re busy doing that, learn to love cliché phrases because the quotes on your Pinterest wall will comfort you more than you know. Talk to your friends, listen to your music and if you manage to muster up the energy that you desperately feel you lack, then go outside. Take a walk, you know I’m right. Don’t shut yourself away. As good as it feels to let it all out in the comfort of your own room, (which, by the way, dad is still angry you painted red...It does not come off easily!) you are only pushing people further and further away. Don’t worry about being a burden; people love you and want to help you.
“Because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind”
Told you, didn’t I. Appreciate the little things people do for you, and never forget any of them. Granted, you did pretty well at that. But don’t go over and above for everyone, it will only wear you down. You are important, and taking care of yourself is crucial. Start accepting MRKH as soon as you can. The friends you will make through having this condition are some of the best you will ever have. And, to deny yourself those extra few years of connection because you are still angry at the world, is a huge kick in the teeth. Take that leap of faith, google MRKH, tell someone about it, talk about it and start believing it doesn’t define you.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing, but so is life. And that, is inevitable. Don’t regret any of your decisions or choices, because guess what…YOU made it. And you are happy.
Oh, and go buy some champagne, you’re gonna need it.
.... With Love,
Your Sister, Kelly
United Kingdom, Aged 22
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